Facing my fears sometimes reduces them to miniature. Other times with the help of a knowledgeable person I am able to make realistic choices that fit into my life. I am given another new challenge that is listed as wait and see. I am learning to be very comfortable with wait and see. Patience is…
My daughter posted a link to a list of hidden forms of abuse. Those behaviors that fall in the category of deniable. The abuser turns things around and blames the victim. https://tapoos.com/relationships/9-abusive-behaviors-not-physical/?utm_source=virmed&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=VMPub146 Gaslighting – This is an intentional war on the mind and emotions of another person. It is coined from a movie from the…
Denial doesn’t change facts. It is like the little kid hiding the cookie behind their back for anyone else to see then shaking their head no; they didn’t take a cookie. Really Didn’t. They keep shaking their head like the denial will change the facts. It is a universal theme. Dorthy is told to ignore…
My counselor taught me that anger is a secondary emotion, hurt, fear, and frustration come first. If your therapist is willing let them walk you through pealing back the anger to explore the hurt you have felt, the fear generated from your experiences, and frustration that people don’t change. Another part of the package is…
I believe one of the predominant feelings of people with PTSD is “Tired of being Tired.” The interesting thing about tiredness is it comes from multiple sources. Hyper-vigilance sustained over long periods of time puts a lot of wear and tear on the body. Super alert constantly leaves little time for the body to rejuvenate. …
Every bit of research I’ve read on PTSD and religion is that those with some belief in a Supreme Being have the advantage. They believe there is something more, something bigger than this one moment. I had nightmares most of last night I woke up and was thankful to be awake. Sleep is highly overrated. …
I deleted a comment from a person that was angry with me over a post that did not meet his need to feel validated. I feel sad that he is hurting so much. It is a reminder to myself that not everyone is in the same place when they read my blog. I’ve been writing…
Thank you to the lady that let me share her poetry. The invisible illness I am a prisoner of my own body, Chained and a life proclaimed by pain. I am in a state of constant war, There are deep scars. There is no colour sharp enough to reflect my pain, There is no…
effect more than people think it does. Every where on the internet and TV are pictures of the disaster of Hurricane Harvey. I cannot even comprehend getting over 3 feet of water in 24 hours with more to come. The VA (Veterans Administration) posted on their Facebook a link to their disaster information. https://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/treatment/therapy-med/disaster_mental_health_treatment.asp and…
My counselor taught me this concept, over and over and over again. He emphasized that how we view ‘facts’ can be reframed to change the meaning. I found an article that describes this process. http://changingminds.org/techniques/general/reframing.htm A frame, or frame of reference is a complex schema of unquestioned beliefs, values and so on that we use…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 