….is a good thing. Mighty shared a list of 25 things adults that experienced childhood abuse may do. https://themighty.com/2017/06/childhood-emotional-abuse-adult-habits/ When I started counseling I scored 25 out of 25. Ugh. After 10 years of counseling and 4 years working on my own I lowered my score by a lot. If I still do some of…
I took a PTSD quiz and missed one of the questions. Really, I live it every day. Then I realized that the question I missed is a common myth about children living in abuse. The question asked how students do in school. I answered get top grades. Nope the correct answer was get into trouble…
Sometimes a post fits on both pages. This is one of those posts. http://weareone-ruth.blogspot.com/2017/06/survival-tool-but.html Survival tool but….not a living tool. People pleasing is how I survived the insanity of growing up in a home with a demanding mother. By jumping through her hoops I got fed and fewer spankings. However, People pleasing has a…
I believe that every person with PTSD or not had difficulties with relationships because we are human. We don’t see things the same way. We don’t respond to stress in the same way. We all have different expectations. However, PTSD and trauma can add layers of difficulty that can be difficult to cut through. Me…
I work at a school where Early Childhood Education is one of the courses of study. High school students learn to be preschool teachers. I coined the motto, “Our Work is Child’s Play.” I help teach students the importance of play but I am lousy at playing. This link explains some of the reasons why…
I am rebuilding my health after a rough beginning to 2017. A fast trip to Kentucky followed by horrible allergies, finished off with a car wreck that was not my fault but left me with spectacular bruising and a sore neck. The bruising is fading but still tender to the touch. Sneezing is painful. I…
One of the confusing things that my counselor spent many hours trying to help me understand was I needed to fire my mean boss. That mean boss that expects me to arrive early and leave late. The one that doesn’t allow any sick time. Punishes me for not doing enough. Rages at me for the…
I get articles about PTSD and depression…Every so often one of the articles tells me how I feel and why. Don’t just don’t. This particular article was about depression and stated why I feel depressed. The article did share one of the causes of depression but it is not my cause for depression. Over years…
One of the many cognitive dissonance moments was learning about the amygdala. That pesky part of the brain that sees a T-Rex instead of a barking dog. The amygdala kicks in when danger is perceived….unfortunately, long term abuse leaves me seeing danger everywhere. Examples a black cat is a pouncing panther, a test precedes a…
Judy, my sister, debunked one of the memes on her blog….https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/05/22/meme-debunking-20/ A lack of boundaries often invites a lack of respect. No. Just no. Bad choice of verb. A lack of boundaries does NOT INVITE a lack of respect. A lack of boundaries usually means that boundaries were NOT RESPECTED in the first place. My version would…
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