I wasn’t allowed to have feelings or they were purposely and maliciously twisted for the purposes of my abusers. Stop the feelings – stop my abusers controlling me. This brings me to self care #5 Allowing myself to feel all emotions – joy and anger are the most difficult for me. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy’s…
Routines are built to get things done. Most people don’t write down basics like shower, get dressed, eat. They don’t need to. They simply do them every day without fail. Not so with an abuse survivor. CPTSD disables a person from believing that they should be taken care of by themselves or anyone else. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/…
Months ago, I read this article on self-care, then I immersed myself in a huge costume project that self care came so far down the list I was down right mean to myself. I focused on finishing, DH(darling husband) made sure I ate and sewed for me when others decided the project was too big…
The time is now. The time to prepare for the holidays is past. They arrived officially for me today when I didn’t have to set my alarm. I slept in until 7:00 AM, after I made myself go back to bed at my regular wake up time. My attitude will make all the difference. Choose…
I ran across an interesting article that shared the ‘Code Words’ people use to mask what they are really feeling. https://themighty.com/2017/11/phrases-code-for-struggling-today-mental-health/ My children pointed out to me years ago that I lied all the time. People would say, “Hi, how are you?” And I would answer, “Fine.” I would have a death grip on the…
I am a member of a CPTSD group on Facebook. Someone posed the question what is the difference between a panic attack and an anxiety attack. My gut feeling is a panic attack is like a spike in fear that is difficult or impossible to control….anxiety attack is the struggle I go with many days…
flexible without getting bent out of shape. At school our principal challenged us to do something new this year. Gear it up. I decided with the many changes and different request I decided that I would not let all the changes bend me out of shape. One of the challenges for a person living with…
Back in September my sister Judy shared an article on self-care. I decided to write my perspective and share her link but then life happened for both of us. I am not complaining or sad, it just happened. A lot of what happened was good and awesomeness. She got back on track with sharing her…
This came up on my Facebook feed as a memory. I felt it was a good reminder for friends and family of someone with PTSD. Holidays often have multiple triggers attached to events. Plan ahead for possibilities and share possible coping skills to those you trust to help. Really, touch can be another layer of…
Every so often I come across something so powerful I want to share it on my both my blogs. This is one of those posts. Thanks to my friend, Roots to Blossom for sharing… My friend told me I could share her post. https://roots2blossom.wordpress.com/2017/11/01/owning-it-a-step-past-acceptance I love this quote from her Mother-In-Law. She said “Tell them…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 