Complicating things

I actually maintain 3 different blogs.  My picture blog I’ve hardly touched in a year.  I kept getting it more and more complicated until I found I couldn’t keep up with it any more.  It started out 1 picture a day….then I made it more complicated.  I have my We are One blog and it…

Same storm different boats

I saw this on the internet and felt compelled to share it here.  This is not written by me, it is signed anonymous.  Your experiences are yours, don’t let someone else tell you what you should feel.   WE ARE NOT IN THE SAME BOAT … I heard that we are all in the same…

Stress, What stress?

Today on one of the Facebook pages a person on the CPTSD page wondered why she was feeling so stressed when she liked to stay home.  I pointed out to her that there is a big difference between choosing to stay home and being trapped at home.  Death threats if you don’t comply.  Accusations of…

Can’t have both ways

I am watching a trend among those with Complex PTSD.  They want to claim loud and clear that they coped with difficult things and do not have mental illness.  They rage when they are ‘misdiagnosed’  and won’t listen, if you try to explain that insurance companies only pay for therapy if it is in the…

Scapegoating

I was the family scapegoat until my sister was born.  Then that role was transferred to her while I was given the family care giver role.  However, both my sister and I were blamed for negative things in the family.  My father’s worse insult was to call someone a “Girrrl.”  To him, there was nothing…

CPTSD video

  I put in the link and it automatically embedded itself on to my page.  I believe this is one of the clearest short answer to the question What is Complex PTSD, this segement does not go into how to manage it but does clarify how it is defined by insurance companies and other professionals. …

Fawning

I grew up learning about fight or flight ad nauseam.  I blew it off.  I didn’t fight, I didn’t run.  I figured it didn’t apply to me, which in a way it didn’t.  I eventually learned about freeze.  Then I read an article by Peter Walker outlining the 4 F’s: Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn. …

Another shift

My son-in-law teaches people about how to shift their paradigm….I’ve read along and nodded my head; then it struck me, I need another paradigm shift.  For those not familiar with paradigm, it is the thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that we live by.  Many of these beliefs and behaviors started in childhood.  If you had a…