Attitude of Gratitude

“I have an attitude and I know how to use it.”  Seems contradictory.  One of the many things I learned in counseling is the Art of Gratitude.  Like many life skills, gratitude is a skill that needs to be taught.  Receiving a gift, a compliment, or some good deed may be difficult for someone with…

Magic Words

I am continuing my take on each one of Pavelka’s Toolbox.  Today’s post is about the magic words.  Yup, old fashion but still powerful and healing. Please Thank You I’m sorry I don’t know Please and Thank you go along way to smooth many situations.  However, I learned that extreme pleading and over the top…

Manna again

Recently had a conversation with my Dad and sister about things taking a long time.  Manna again for 40 years.  November is a month of Thanksgiving.  It came after the harvest which when the tradition was started was truly a matter of life and death.  Many times blessings come in the form of manna.  The…

Emotional shift

Emotions confuse and clarify, hide and reveal, happen and suppressed.  I am working on gaining control over my emotions without destroying my emotions.  Most teenagers learn the art of feeling and what to do about it.  They experiment feeling different ways and responding to those emotions….terrible teens is an indicator of how wild this time…

Antidote to Hopelessness

Hopelessness is precursor to suicide.  That moment in time when nothing good seems possible.  You wake up again in pain and darkness knowing the same thing will happen tomorrow.  When I first heard that gratitude was the antidote to hopelessness it was said in such away that I felt hurt.  A glib off the cuff,…

Healthy Self-Love

I planned this post when I wrote yesterdays post.  One of the comments stated so clearly how to begin the journey towards healthy self-love and self-respect. From Grace to Survive: “remember gentleness, compassion and warm, loving feelings towards oneself, that they begin within, that yes, I deserve it too, in fact, I deserve it first…