Calming yourself (part 5)

A post on Facebook led to a link to an article with 49 phrases to use to calm an anxious child.  I am going to explain how these can be used to calm an anxious adult, especially yourself:  (My inner child needed lots of calming, especially when I was in counseling and remembering my past.) …

Calming yourself (part 3)

A post on Facebook led to a link to an article with 49 phrases to use to calm an anxious child.  I am going to explain how these can be used to calm an anxious adult, especially yourself:  (My inner child needed lots of calming, especially when I was in counseling and remembering my past.) …

Calming yourself (part 2)

A post on Facebook led to a link to an article with 49 phrases to use to calm an anxious child.  I am going to explain how these can be used to calm an anxious adult, especially yourself:  (My inner child needed lots of calming, especially when I was in counseling and remembering my past.) …

Trade offs

PTSD is like having your stress bucket almost full before you start your day.  Adding a big event such as a wedding or friends party or a movie or any other event with good stress or bad stress I am making trade offs.  How long will it take me to recover from that 3 hour…

Useless…..totally useless

One of the blogs I follow is Emerging from Broken by Darlene Ouimet. She posted her experience on confronting her abuser/mother.  http://emergingfrombroken.com/to-confront-or-not-to-confront-that-is-the-question/ Darlene points out several of the issues when confronting.  Not wanting to hurt their feelings.  Concern that she would be just like them.  Lack of self care. I also talked to my counselor…

Last Straw

People seem to expect that the final reason a person leaves a relationship is something big.  Sometimes this is true.  However, many times it is a matter of ‘the last straw that broke the camels back.’  The term refers to the piling on and piling on of events or behaviors that put so much stain…

On Rough days

One of the frustrations of PTSD is after a wonderful experience, a crash often follows close on or a trigger seems 10 times more annoying when you felt on top of the world to slam down again.  On these rough days I like to remember the quote I saw from several sources.  (Not sure who…

Walk away

Sometimes you have to walk away.  People will question you, doubt you, suggest ways you could change the situation but the bottom line, sometimes you walk away.  CPTSD/PTSD sometimes occurs due to abuse or ongoing abuse by someone close to us.  Hardest thing to do is to walk away when you wish you could stay. …

Admitting defeat

Last month I experienced a person taking advantage to me because of my not understanding how things were done at school.  A month later, I knew I would encounter the same person.  I decided to write an email to try to repair the problem.  It didn’t work.  I went to my supervisor and explained what…