Perfect victim

A perfect victim never fights back.  I didn’t cut toxic people out of my life either.  I just took it.  Progress came when I encouraged my husband to find work in another state and move 1000 miles away.  But my inner past came with me.  I didn’t stand up for myself on anything. 22. “I…

Different Facets

Of the same problem….Trust. 14. “I avoid asking help from anyone because I don’t trust anyone. I believe if someone offers me a hand, there will always be something they [want to] ask in return. I have friends but I don’t have a best friend. I keep my distance from people. Automatically, my wall blocks…

Struggle with Self Care

How does one learn to care for themselves when they were neglected/abused as a child?  What does being cared for look like?  I thought for years since I had a roof over my head, food to eat, and clothes to wear I was taken care of.  I didn’t know anything different.  Raising my own children…

Rules of healing

Every person heals at their own rate and in their own way.  However, I learned from reading many blogs, books, and articles that there are a few basic rules that show up on a regular basis. Rule #1 Stop lying, especially to yourself.  This is difficult to look at your own life without excuses or…

Raising Awareness

One of the basic tenants of counseling is raising awareness of what abuse is.  Most people will shake their heads and claim….I do know what it is.  I can’t tell you the shock I felt when emotional abuse was first outlined for me.  This is a link that shares questions to consider if I the…

Slogging Through PTSD

The original title for the workbook I am doing was going to be Slogging through PTSD, which I believe is far more accurate than most people want to admit.  One of the stories it asked you to imagine you are in a bog, up to your hips in ooze, and as the day heats up…