Every person heals at their own rate and in their own way. However, I learned from reading many blogs, books, and articles that there are a few basic rules that show up on a regular basis.
Rule #1 Stop lying, especially to yourself. This is difficult to look at your own life without excuses or cushioning white lies.
Bell the Cat rule….don’t offer a suggestion unless you are willing to carry it through.
Æsop. (Sixth century B.C.) Fables.
The Harvard Classics. 1909–14.
LONG ago, the mice had a general council to consider what measures they could take to outwit their common enemy, the Cat. Some said this, and some said that; but at last a young mouse got up and said he had a proposal to make, which he thought would meet the case. “You will all agree,” said he, “that our chief danger consists in the sly and treacherous manner in which the enemy approaches us. Now, if we could receive some signal of her approach, we could easily escape from her. I venture, therefore, to propose that a small bell be procured, and attached by a ribbon round the neck of the Cat. By this means we should always know when she was about, and could easily retire while she was in the neighbourhood.”
This proposal met with general applause, until an old mouse got up and said: “That is all very well, but who is to bell the Cat?” The mice looked at one another and nobody spoke. Then the old mouse said:
“IT IS EASY TO PROPOSE IMPOSSIBLE REMEDIES.”
Take responsibility of your own actions and choices.
Recognize choices are there.
Set boundaries and protect them.
Healing and regaining confidence take time, effort and desire. Lack anyone of the three and no progress is made.
What rules of healing have you noticed make a difference?