Every so often when I am planning a post, more perspectives come to my attention. I am continuing addressing the different ways that are obvious and not so obvious self-care issues from CPTSD/PTSD. This is the link to the original article: https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Today’s discussion is from #6 To stop always saying “sorry” (for nothing) and…
I wasn’t allowed to have feelings or they were purposely and maliciously twisted for the purposes of my abusers. Stop the feelings – stop my abusers controlling me. This brings me to self care #5 Allowing myself to feel all emotions – joy and anger are the most difficult for me. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy’s…
I talk openly about living with PTSD. Sometimes I am with my husband, DH Darling Husband. When we are together in contributes to the conversation and refers to OUR journey. His perspective is of seeing me suffer and work so hard and not being able to help. Or wanting to be there for me even…
What? I am supposed to self-care? Don’t I have enough to do caring for everyone else? https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy, my sister, found this link and shared it on her project/blog. Last round of 25 things my sister wrote after I did. This time I think I will reverse it and post the link to her…
How really messed up I was. I excelled at the hiding game. Our children were the first ones to really notice a recurring theme that their mother was not the same in all situations. One of them accused me of lying. I was appalled. When I entered counseling and discovered the dance between personalities that…
My counselor taught me this concept, over and over and over again. He emphasized that how we view ‘facts’ can be reframed to change the meaning. I found an article that describes this process. http://changingminds.org/techniques/general/reframing.htm A frame, or frame of reference is a complex schema of unquestioned beliefs, values and so on that we use…
I was diagnosed with PTSD with dissociation at an extreme level over 12 years ago. During that time PTSD was gaining recognition as being more than a soldier’s terror. Sadly, this caused conflict and confusion. Some soldiers thought that those not serving in the war didn’t have the ‘right’ to talk about their pain and…
I grew up with no social media. I couldn’t text, surf or blog because none of that existed. Saved me from posting a lot of dumb stuff. 25. “Several things, but the main one was lashing out on social media for years. Controversial and angry statuses, just due to the anger inside of me. I…
************* TRIGGER WARNING************* I asked this question in high school. I took a class called search for identity. We read the book Daphne du Maurier The Scapegoat. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18869971-the-scapegoat Left me with more questions than answers. I was the only person in the class that read the semester long text in two weeks. The…
The last quote has two parts. Blaming myself is part 1, part 2 is the constant feeling I am not good enough. I’m not good enough parent, I’m not good enough photographer, I’m not good enough computer technician. The list goes on and on and on. I see myself as not enough. 23. “Blaming myself…
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