Plan for the holidays

Right now we are twixt and between holiday’s.  Memorial day is coming up in the United States. Planning in advance for holidays gives you time to make a plan and practice. Holidays include birthdays, anniversaries of negative events, family events, graduations and all the holidays that hit the calendars. Just before Mother’s Day Mighty posted…

What worked….

What didn’t?  I learned in counseling, one of the important things to do after a stressful event is to acknowledge what I did well.  Too often I totally dismiss what worked.  By focusing in on what parts of my plan worked I can build on these strengths.  I also need to acknowledge what didn’t work. …

Wishing I was in counseling

Tonight is one of those nights that I wish I was still in counseling with my first counselor.  He let me email him when I felt tremendous internal pressure and I needed to let off steam without harming anyone, myself included.  He wouldn’t always answer.  Many times it would be a short acknowledgement that we…

Rule #1

Counseling taught me many things.  However, one basic rule needed to be followed. Rule #1 Stop lying, especially to yourself.  That’s it.  Stop it.  My teenagers brought me up short and started my truth campaign before counseling.  They asked me why I lied all the time.  I of course denied the allegation.  I asked them…

Coping

The holidays are in full swing, so are triggers, anxiety, and depression.  I also love the Christmas lights the excitement and fun.  The bustle, rushing and extreme expectations not so much.  I decided that for the month of December I am posting tips and ideas for coping with high stresses of holiday festivities.  Last month…

Building a team

Holidays are a time when many people have triggers.  Emotions run high so does anxiety and tempers.  Preventive maintenance makes a difference.  Put your boundaries in place.  Tell trusted people what you need to do better during the holidays.  Building your team when you are under less stress so that they are there for you…