Mile in my shoes

Before judging me and my choices, walk a mile in my shoes…..then you are a mile away and I can’t hear you.   Too often it is comments and words and ‘well meaning’ advice that can really hurt.  Instead of expecting other people to watch what they say, I am working on a list of…

12 Symptoms

People sometimes ask, “What is the difference between PTSD and Complex PTSD?”  Fast explanation, “It is the same difference between a simple broken leg and a compound fracture.”  Some people explain it has to do with age, duration, care taker vs stranger, and other external influences that complicate the person’s reaction.  I follow Lilly Hope…

All emotions

I lived without emotions for quite a while.  I would file them under the ‘do not disturb box.’  I did this for a good reason.  Growing up in a home where being ’emotional’ was like the worse thing you could do, I stifled my emotions more and more.  Did not help growing up being a…

Don’t tell me why

I get articles about PTSD and depression…Every so often one of the articles tells me how I feel and why.  Don’t just don’t.  This particular article was about depression and stated why I feel depressed.  The article did share one of the causes of depression but it is not my cause for depression.  Over years…

Inner Battles….

Rarely show outside scars.     Trigger Alert articles may be triggering for some readers.  Two articles came to my attention today.  One comes from Lilly Hope Lucario sharing how she felt at the beginning of her journey of healing.  https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2013/04/28/complex-ptsd-is-an-isolating-severe-exhausting-disorder/ Her description so vividly described how I felt so often at the beginning of my healing…

Cellular Level

Why can’t I get away from my memories? Written on our mind and in our bodies these bundle of cells lurk waiting to be reactivated when a smell, sight, sound, touch or taste hit that hot button and fire off a flashback.  The evidence is piling up from research and personal experience.  I didn’t remember…

Who decides hurt?

I enjoy Facebook pages that post stuff that encourages, makes me think, and agrees with me.     The reverse is also true.  If I tell someone they hurt me, they don’t get to decide that they didn’t. One of the important things that I learned in counseling was I decide what hurts me.  As…