Plan in advance

I am always on the look out for more ideas on how to cope.  I am also aware that some families and friends want to help.  I learned that without actually experiencing a flashback, trigger or some other PTSD/CPTSD symptom it is hard for them to know what to do.  I like what this young…

Train to use the tools

Train to use the tools in your toolbox.  I started with practicing with my counselor.  Then I practiced on a person that was truly out to get me fired.  If the experiment went badly I didn’t worry because I wasn’t building a relationship, I was learning to protect myself from those that wish to do…

Sometimes the answer is NO

I put off this question because it is staring me in the face right now….. “Couldn’t we at least…?” This is the question to ask that will enable you to get unstuck, as they say. It’s what enables you to get past disagreement to some consensus, as in couldn’t we at least agree that we…

Can’t let go

I had no memories from my childhood.  In a way I let it go but I still had PTSD response with no understanding as to why I reacted this way.  It was difficult in counseling when my counselor asked me about my past.  I chirped, “We went to the park, we went to the zoo.” …

Sample Plan

I woke up this morning thinking about sharing a sample plan and some inside thoughts on how I made my decisions.  I don’t want PTSD to rule my life, but pretending it doesn’t affect my life sets me up for failure. Basic questions when creating a Plan for an event. When is the event happening?…

Mindfulness

Wow.  Mindfulness is what I would call a MEGA tool.  It helps people with all sorts of issues not just PTSD.  A lot is written about it.  All 3 of my counselors talked about using mindfulness, being present, counting breathes, and several other references.  This to me is like hitting the pause button when you…