Ebb and Flow

I am working on something new to me.  Probably not new to most people.  In the past, no matter how stressful life becomes I am going to accomplish several things on my mental list or beat myself for not doing this.  This is the new school year, happens every august about the same time.  This…

4 Fs of Stress Response

I am on Facebook and joined two groups that are similar to each other but slightly different.  One is Living with CPTSD and the other is Healing from CPTSD.  Matt, one of the founders and sometimes administrators, shares some of the most awesome stuff.  I like sharing but I also respect copywrite laws.  I am…

Hyper-vigilance is rewarded

Every time I get on the freeway my enhanced hyper-vigilance is rewarded.  I am super aware of cars changing lanes, speed demons racing up from behind and near misses that keeps my hyper-vigilance on alert.  It is exhausting being super aware all the time of every person around.  I didn’t know it was unusual.  I…

Need more

sphincter muscles.  Yup.  All week I worked on a list of vocabulary words for school.  One was sphincter muscle.  The explanation was long and almost as confusing.  I had a 3rd column that gave a short more direct answer.  This morning I stared at the word then burst out laughing.  I knew I couldn’t use…

the 4Fs

Most people are aware of the two stress responses Fight or Flight.  Back in 1920, Walter Cannon coined the phrase that I grew up with all my life. https://home.cc.umanitoba.ca/~berczii/hans-selye/walter-cannon-fight-or-flight-response.html My mother studied stress so I heard plenty about it.  However, I was in counseling before I learned these basic primal responses have a couple of cousins,…

It’s supposed to be hard

My sister posts stuff from Navy Seals on a regular basis.  Today was a nice reminder to me. Unbreakable: A Navy SEAL’s Way of Life Life is supposed to be hard from the time you abruptly come into the world until the time you slide in sideways to the end of the line! If it…

Blaming Christmas

It is easy to blame Christmas for the stress, frustration, melt downs, depression and other negativity around the season.  However, if you look at it from the perspective that December 25 is a day like any other day it starts to become clear that it is not the day itself; our own expectations of the…

Make a Plan

The holidays are coming….they come the same time every year.  Different holidays affect people differently.  For me, Halloween is just fun, no triggers.  However, Thanksgiving is at the top of my trigger lists.  The challenge is to sort out why the holiday is a problem then create a plan that helps you navigate the holiday. …

Make a Stress box

 I joined twitter to be able to access a friends blog.  I don’t usually read anything from it, but twitter hates to be ignored so sends me emails with things that might interest me.  They actually did.  This is a tweet by Dr. Michele Borba.   Dr. Michele Borba ‏@micheleborba  #Kidstressbuster #3 Make Stress Box…

Mental Blackouts

Every student has felt this when they look at their test and their brain refuses to relinquish any information about what they read the night before.  Some are short, like when yelling at your own child and you can’t remember their name.  Other kind last much longer; childhood, what childhood, I don’t remember any childhood. …