Right now we are twixt and between holiday’s. Memorial day is coming up in the United States. Planning in advance for holidays gives you time to make a plan and practice. Holidays include birthdays, anniversaries of negative events, family events, graduations and all the holidays that hit the calendars. Just before Mother’s Day Mighty posted…
More complex then it first appears. 20. “I have a hard time making eye contact with people. I look away a lot when I’m speaking. I get startled very easily and it takes me awhile to get my heart rate back to normal.” https://themighty.com/2017/06/childhood-emotional-abuse-adult-habits/ For me, this is two separate issues. Startle response is extreme. …
The amazing thing about exploring human condition and choosing to change my life is tumbling through facts and fallacies, or often the case of opinions dressed up to look like facts. One of the difficulties I have with the “Law of attraction” is that it is easy to punch a bazillion holes in it. I…
I am continuing with my comments on Pavelka’s Toolbox. https://pavelka.co.uk/ HOG – Honest Open and Genuine I believe this is part of Rule #1 Stop lying, especially to yourself. I was deeply troubled by the lies upon lies I lived with everyday to maintain the facade that my childhood was great. For me to be…
Growing up a child does not get to choose what is taught. A child can be taught black is white and hate is right and cruelty is funny. Yes, I experienced some of these. So when a child hits teen years usually enough other people are in their life for them to doubt, question or…
The truth will make you free but first it will make you really miserable. ~ Barry Stevens, born Mildred Fox, used by James A. Garfield and others Judy (my sister) and I often discuss the importance of truth. Our perspective changed abruptly when we understood our childhood was littered with lies. Lies upon lies or…
I read several PTSD blogs to keep up on what other people are discovering and trying with PTSD. I appreciated the post over at Healing from Complex PTSD discussing the difference between a trigger and discerning current bad behavior. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2016/06/20/when-triggers-are-actually-intuition-discernment-lilly-hope-lucario/ My thoughts on the issue is that it isn’t a trigger if the bad behavior…
This came in my letter from Michele Rosenthal, http://yourlifeaftertraumabook.com/. She shares her recovery methods from PTSD. I’m sharing her words to let you know that you are not alone in finding this time of year is tough. But it might not be the toughest time for you. Each person has their own times of…
This is the time of the year I review my progress. I made it through Christmas time. I love the season but tend to plan more than I could ever accomplish. I lost presents that I bought this summer and had to buy things for my granddaughters. They’ll get the other presents when I find…
First, I had to know what it was. My entire childhood was so full of lies to protect ‘family image,’ I didn’t even realize how much I lied. Sometimes the lies were omitting the truth but that was necessary for my survival. I would get punished for telling the truth. If I reported truthfully to…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 