One of the homework assignments I was given early in my counseling required me to follow the 5-50 rule. Do something for someone else that takes less than 5 minutes and cost less than 50 cents. (A candy bar usually costs more than 50 cents unless you can find them on sale.) Doesn’t sound like much but here are a few things to try….
Open a door.
Serve a meal to a friend.
Put a quarter in a meter that is about to run out.
Make a family members bed. (Might be a little creepy if you do this for a neighbor.)
Take a newspaper up to your neighbor’s front door.
Feed the birds.
Push a child on a swing. (Could take longer than 5 minutes if having fun.)
Help a person pick up something they dropped.
This list could go on and on….it is amazing how many things can be done with this criteria 5-50.
Before you start screaming that you can’t do one more thing…..please keep in mind that you only do one a day. I figured I could do something once a day. That evening, write what you did and how you felt about it. By the way, I totally missed the point of the exercise. I came back depressed about how much more I should be doing. It was one of the many moments that my counselor had the look of total frustration. What I was supposed to learn…it feels good to do something for someone else and Dooot doooty doooo….I am a good person. I finally went with I am a kind person. I do enjoy doing things for other people. I love serving the lunches to the little preschoolers at the school where I work. I feel like a rock star. I walk in the room with their lunches and they all cheer. It feels good.
Little changes make a difference….try it.
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I’d pick up a piece of trash and throw it away, or spend five minutes cleaning up the bus stop. I also allowed other people to go ahead of me. A fun one was I did that for a mom with a fussy child at the post office, and the two people in front of me let her go ahead too. We all smiled, especially the mom and child. I also failed to learn the lesson intended. Like you, I kept thinking I wasn’t doing enough. Poor counselor spelled out what I was supposed to learn “You are a good person,” and I stared at him blankly. 🙄
The little things that make big differences….:)