Can’t have both ways

I am watching a trend among those with Complex PTSD.  They want to claim loud and clear that they coped with difficult things and do not have mental illness.  They rage when they are ‘misdiagnosed’  and won’t listen, if you try to explain that insurance companies only pay for therapy if it is in the…

Skills to learn

Early in my counseling my therapist bluntly told me I was an emotional moron.  Wow thanks.  But he followed this with the information that I can change this by learning the skills that I didn’t learning as a child.  I totally did not comprehend how much I missed out on growing up.  I didn’t grow…

Scapegoating

I was the family scapegoat until my sister was born.  Then that role was transferred to her while I was given the family care giver role.  However, both my sister and I were blamed for negative things in the family.  My father’s worse insult was to call someone a “Girrrl.”  To him, there was nothing…

CPTSD video

  I put in the link and it automatically embedded itself on to my page.  I believe this is one of the clearest short answer to the question What is Complex PTSD, this segement does not go into how to manage it but does clarify how it is defined by insurance companies and other professionals. …

Zero

I read criticism on one of the Facebook CPTSD pages that a recommended video personality for healing from CPTSD was  not a trained psychologist or psychiatrist.  Guess what most of them aren’t.  My son and son-in-law both have psychology degrees, do you know how many hours of class was spent on trauma training?  That’s right,…

Fawning

I grew up learning about fight or flight ad nauseam.  I blew it off.  I didn’t fight, I didn’t run.  I figured it didn’t apply to me, which in a way it didn’t.  I eventually learned about freeze.  Then I read an article by Peter Walker outlining the 4 F’s: Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn. …

Sort of but not quite

Universities are starting to publish articles on PTSD, of course CPTSD is not mentioned because it is not yet an “official” diagnosis.  Here’s the link to the article. https://www.uab.edu/news/youcanuse/item/10726-ptsd-is-not-just-for-veterans-it-s-a-trauma-disorder-that-affects-millions The part I get frustrated is the bending of the causes to fit their agenda: “We must see PTSD, and other trauma-related disorders, as mental health…

Living intentionally

A new year, a new beginning, the same pain and the same challenges.  I laughed when a teacher at church shared that he does not make New Year Resolutions because he likes to spread his failures out over the whole year.  I hate new year resolutions because I hate the sound of them breaking on…

Recovery Takes Time

I enjoyed Christmas this year.  That was my goal.  I succeeded.  However, recovery takes time.  I spent the days after Christmas at home.  Resting – working quietly.  Worked on crocheting and pour painting.  I didn’t push myself to accomplish anything.  I set my goal to enjoy Christmas, I did.  Time to take a victory lap…