A perfect victim never fights back. I didn’t cut toxic people out of my life either. I just took it. Progress came when I encouraged my husband to find work in another state and move 1000 miles away. But my inner past came with me. I didn’t stand up for myself on anything. 22. “I…
I struggle with the fact that I suffer the consequences of another persons mistakes and evil choices. I get depressed thinking about what a mess my childhood was, most of my life I couldn’t even remember it. 21. “I have major issues with anxiety and depression because of my childhood. The biggest factor is…
More complex then it first appears. 20. “I have a hard time making eye contact with people. I look away a lot when I’m speaking. I get startled very easily and it takes me awhile to get my heart rate back to normal.” https://themighty.com/2017/06/childhood-emotional-abuse-adult-habits/ For me, this is two separate issues. Startle response is extreme. …
I learned that emotional abuse is a part of every other abuse and causes the most lasting damage. A child’s emotions are tender and untried an abuser can do extensive damage at a young age. Toxic Parents is one of the best sources that describe the emotional abuse perpetuated by too many parents. 19. “My…
*******Warning discussion of suicide******* I learned that I couldn’t continue watching the Star Wars series when they showed how Darth Vader came to be. If it feels too real, it is not entertainment. 17. “[I] won’t let anyone see the ‘bad’ side of myself.” https://themighty.com/2017/06/childhood-emotional-abuse-adult-habits/ I don’t want people to see the residual…
Of the same problem….Trust. 14. “I avoid asking help from anyone because I don’t trust anyone. I believe if someone offers me a hand, there will always be something they [want to] ask in return. I have friends but I don’t have a best friend. I keep my distance from people. Automatically, my wall blocks…
If you live in the United States, July 4th is a fireworks holiday. How can a person with PTSD prepare for the day? Accept that the sound of fireworks is triggering. If possible, go to a place where fireworks are not allowed. Other coping ideas: Ear plugs, stay in doors, head phones that can block…
I threatened my counselor that I would become a hermit. It was easier in my mind than dealing with all the scary people around me all the time. Wanting to be a hermit was tied to my not trusting people. What to do? What to do? 6. “I’m basically a hermit. My home is my…
This is a copyrighted web page that I find extremely helpful. I decided to add it to the resources page. I believe it is a way to explain to those that want to understand how quickly energy is drained away. https://butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/
I did it for years. I negated every and any compliment I received. If someone said I did something well, I pointed out what I messed up. Every compliment was turned aside or ignored. I wouldn’t….couldn’t see myself as a good person, so compliments must be a lie. Turned my world upside down and inside…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 