Prepare for Family visits

I posted on my other blog several suggestions to prepare to visit family or have them visit you.  Check out the link for more links and ideas….. http://weareone-ruth.blogspot.com/2013/12/preparing-to-be-with-family.html This is the post: http://inbadcompanyinc.wordpress.com/2013/12/18/packing-light TR wrote a wonderful post with ideas on things to pack for family visits.  Whether overnight or a few hours advance preparation…

Plan ahead

PTSD symptoms rise around the holidays.  For some people this time of year is like walking through a minefield of triggers.  On my other blog I shared some tips for coping through the Holidays…. This is a reprint from 2014 – information still applies: I added to my list It comes every year, like clock…

Holidays and Families

I spent a wonderful few days with family and enjoyed the 4th of July relaxing.  I enjoy taking pictures of fireworks but this year I spent it at home with an awesome dinner with DH and keeping our dog comfortable.  My sister said that she watched the fireworks on TV and this helped calm her…

Merry Christmas

May today bring peace and joy to your home.  Challenges are all around but this is a beautiful time to make new memories.  I can’t control the memories I have from my past but I can create new memories now.  Create a new tradition.  Eliminate activities that are all stress and no joy.  Simplify.  Sit…

Challenge my views

Counseling was a weekly challenge to my life views.  There wasn’t a single part of my life that wasn’t pushed to the max during counseling.  I continue the process.  Before jumping to the idea that I am suggesting you doubt yourself, I learned to challenge long held beliefs. If you always do what you always…

Rule #1

Counseling taught me many things.  However, one basic rule needed to be followed. Rule #1 Stop lying, especially to yourself.  That’s it.  Stop it.  My teenagers brought me up short and started my truth campaign before counseling.  They asked me why I lied all the time.  I of course denied the allegation.  I asked them…

Blaming Christmas

It is easy to blame Christmas for the stress, frustration, melt downs, depression and other negativity around the season.  However, if you look at it from the perspective that December 25 is a day like any other day it starts to become clear that it is not the day itself; our own expectations of the…

Ho Ho No

Do you want to ________? No. Will you _____________? No. You have to __________? No. My counselor struggled to get me to recognize I have choices.  I kept saying, “I have to – “, “They make me -“, I truly believed I didn’t have a choice.  He tried and tried to get me to see…

Happy Holidays Be prepared

I hope everyone is having a Happy Thanksgiving both here in the United States and any where else that celebrates a day of gratitude.  The celebration started with the Pilgrims and the Indians helping each other through a tough growing season and working together.  Sadly the relationship between immigrants and natives went down hill after…