To me, this was the hardest to overcome but once I did, learning about my own power is a key element to my continued healing. As long as I believed I was helpless, I could not believe I could be responsible for my change. I needed to take back my power. I needed to believe…
I am responsible for protecting myself. Too long I waited for my mother, my father, my husband, someone to protect me…..I waited……..and waited. Then I started counseling. Maybe the counselor would protect me? Nope. He informed me that he would teach me how to protect myself. NO That’s it. One word, no explanation needed. I…
Learning Self-compassion is a long term goal. I can actually say I made improvements. I am grieving a huge loss, instead of beating myself up for not moving mountains and working as if nothing happened, I am giving myself time each day to feel sad. I cry when I need to. I am not expecting…
For weeks, I’ve written about the importance of self-care. Now it is time for me to practice what I preach. Deep sadness came to our family when our little granddaughter lived less than an hour. We knew ahead of time. I tried to prepare. I underestimated the impact of one tiny little girl. We said…
I don’t consider this a self care for me. I like planning things. I like spacing out my errands so they don’t get all jammed on the same day. I am happy to be alive and doing so many different things. However, I do give myself permission to have a no peopling day. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ 25.…
Self-care is not selfish. Hard to believe this or implement it if as a child you are told that getting enough to eat is being selfish. I was told I had to go hungry so my brother could have seconds. Sad thing, food would spoil in the refrigerator because it wasn’t eaten fast enough. As…
If I can’t do it perfectly the first time, I won’t do it at all. Sounds ridiculous but how often do we approach things with this attitude. Let me try another version: If you don’t have time to do it right the first time, when will you have time to do it over? ~ John…
Self-care. Hard to sort this out when I am trying to take care of myself or am I spending money not to really help myself but to have fun spending money or am I just a muddled mess when it comes to money. 15. Spending money on things for myself, getting haircuts and pedicures, making…
A childhood book laid the ground work for the massive weight of guilt about taking even a moment off from childcare. #14 Taking a day off from childcare without worrying constantly or feeling guilty. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy wrote her perspective https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/11/21/self-care-14-of-25/ She pointed out that bad things did happen while she was a way. People that…
I put off for days writing this post. How can I write about a problem that I haven’t solved? My DH pointed out yesterday how painful it is for him to watch me self abuse my body by not eating healthy foods, staying up extremely late, and generallly doing this that are harmful for my…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 