Mind over Matter

If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.  Seriously, I learned this doing dishes. 16. Not feeling like I’m a bad mom/housekeeper etc while I struggle with chronic pain and health issues. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy shares her views on self-care challenge #16: https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/11/30/self-care-16-of-25/ My health problems started when I was 15 years old.  I passed out at…

Healing is a Choice

I am writing several posts about acceptance…accepting myself, my diagnosis, my challenges.  Along the way I noticed in my reading about acceptance that some people interpret acceptance as staying the way they are.  I don’t believe this.  I accept where I am but that doesn’t mean I plan to stay that way.  I believe strongly…

Negotiating Troubled Waters

One of the things that often overwhelms a person with PTSD is negotiating troubled waters, difficult relationships, uncharted experiences, and other stuff that is just plain difficult.  Relationship challenges probably hit the top of the list for almost every person with PTSD.  Many resort to reclusing, aloneness, hibernating, withdrawing or some other form of getting…

Self-care, Are you?

What?  I am supposed to self-care?  Don’t I have enough to do caring for everyone else? https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/   Judy, my sister, found this link and shared it on her project/blog. Last round of 25 things my sister wrote after I did.  This time I think I will reverse it and post the link to her…

What to do with anger?

My counselor taught me that anger is a secondary emotion, hurt, fear, and frustration come first. If your therapist is willing let them walk you through pealing back the anger to explore the hurt you have felt, the fear generated from your experiences, and frustration that people don’t change. Another part of the package is…

Reminder to myself

I deleted a comment from a person that was angry with me over a post that did not meet his need to feel validated.  I feel sad that he is hurting so much.  It is a reminder to myself that not everyone is in the same place when they read my blog.  I’ve been writing…

Self-care vs Selfish

***********Trigger warning*************  written specifically for those with a strong Christian background.   I was taught methodically and purposefully to neglect myself, to serve others, and self-care was being selfish.  Lies upon lies.  Martyrs come in all shapes and sizes.  Putting a cause, others, and anything else before yourself is foolish at best and down right…