Change the question

I asked for years what was wrong with me.  No answers….I asked my parents and my doctor.  Nothing.  Medical test showed I was healthy….then why did I pass out?  My parents told me I was like every other teenager.  I talked to other teenagers and they didn’t react like I did.  I learned two things…

Questions to know more

I work at a high school.  Over and over again the teachers ask, “Do you have any questions?”  Students are absolutely silent.  Then they begin their work and becomes painfully obvious that they needed to ask questions.  I learned to do this myself.  I asked questions about everything.  When I first worked in a computer…

Still in it

One of the hard things about being raised by a person the violates your boundaries on a daily basis is that you don’t realize when someone else is doing the same thing since it is what you are used to having happen.  Thanks to Jonsi and other internet friends I  became more aware.  In counseling,…

Embracing Triggers

I’m not sure I am ready….yet, this was what I did in my 10 years of counseling.  Embraced one trigger, fear, incident, memory at a time, even if they tried to crowd forward all at once my counselor would help me focus on a bit a time. I read this article that set me thinking…

Posttraumatic Growth

Hey I found a new term for thriving.  Posttraumatic Growth is a term coined by “psychologists Richard G. Tedeschi and Lawrence G. Calhoun at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte in the mid-nineties.” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Posttraumatic_growth  I came across it in this article “How to Suffer Successfully: Post-Traumatic Growth and Nietzschean Resilience” http://wakeup-world.com/2015/12/07/how-to-suffer-successfully-post-traumatic-growth-and-nietzschean-resilience/ Most people do…