Skills to learn

Early in my counseling my therapist bluntly told me I was an emotional moron.  Wow thanks.  But he followed this with the information that I can change this by learning the skills that I didn’t learning as a child.  I totally did not comprehend how much I missed out on growing up.  I didn’t grow…

Breathing is good

Feeling Blue – Breathe…..really. Many times when I get anxious or upset the first thing I do is hold my breath.  Taking time to breathe can make a difference.  Breathing is a basic go to slow down the beginnings of stress or the early stages of melt down.  Wait too long and tell me to…

4 perspectives

Every so often when I am planning a post, more perspectives come to my attention.  I am continuing addressing the different ways that are obvious and not so obvious self-care issues from CPTSD/PTSD.  This is the link to the original article: https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Today’s discussion is from #6 To stop always saying “sorry” (for nothing) and…

Ideas to help accommodate

One more party to go….New Year’s Eve. I usually avoid New Year parties.  Often I spend them watching on TV the New Year pass as the globe turns.  Every hour another city televises their celebration.  My daughter with TBI, traumatic brain injury, posted a link to the Mighty on how to accommodate a person with…

Similar frustration

My friend posted an article about cancer patients that are bombarded with ‘easy answers’ and ‘insensitive advice’.  Steven Thrasher the author shared his sister’s experience with cancer.  https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/mar/26/do-not-tell-cancer-patients-cures-they-could-be-doing She fought for 15 years before the cancer beat her.  He shares how people advised her to drink juice, do yoga, be cheerful and many other less…

Change the question

I asked for years what was wrong with me.  No answers….I asked my parents and my doctor.  Nothing.  Medical test showed I was healthy….then why did I pass out?  My parents told me I was like every other teenager.  I talked to other teenagers and they didn’t react like I did.  I learned two things…

Questions to know more

I work at a high school.  Over and over again the teachers ask, “Do you have any questions?”  Students are absolutely silent.  Then they begin their work and becomes painfully obvious that they needed to ask questions.  I learned to do this myself.  I asked questions about everything.  When I first worked in a computer…