What’s Under the Dirt?

One of the questions that pop up about once a week on the PTSD/CPTSD groups I follow is “What if I heal, who am I?” I am a photographer and I think in imagery. I kept thinking about this. The image I came up with is the filthy miners that come out of the coal…

1989 shredding

Deep clean…..the papers I shredded today were from 1989 the house we bought 30 years ago.  We are now in a different house and state.  The papers were labeled house/save.  So I saved them, through 3 moves and 3 different states.  I asked DH* to go through them with me.  Old cars, house, appliances, long…

Scapegoating

I was the family scapegoat until my sister was born.  Then that role was transferred to her while I was given the family care giver role.  However, both my sister and I were blamed for negative things in the family.  My father’s worse insult was to call someone a “Girrrl.”  To him, there was nothing…

In Search of Knights

Needs shiny armor and white horse. Feeling helpless as a child I wanted someone to rescue me.  That same theme is echoed in many childhood stories of someone swooping in and saving the day – EVERYDAY.  The Lone Ranger, Mighty Mouse, The Prince in Cinderella and Snow White, Lassie, all continue this theme of someone…

Treat the triad

Psychologist have their own language that they use to communicate with each other and without a great deal of study leave their client kind of in the dark as to what is going on. https://www.blueknot.org.au/Workers-Practitioners/For-Health-Professionals/Resources-for-Health-Professionals/Best-Practice-Guidelines 11.   Ensure the therapeutic model/approach promotes integration of functioning, and contains the `core elements’ consistent with research findings in the neurobiology…

My survival tool

My counselor helped me to understand that PTSD was my survival tool for extreme situations.  The issue that arose was using extreme measures for every day living.  He pointed out that wearing full body armor in war times is reasonable.  However, when the bombing stops carrying around all that armor wore me down and tired…

Science of Thriving

My counselor told me early on that his goal for me was to not just survive but to thrive.  Rah Rah Great….The next week I came back and asked, “What is thriving?”  At first he seemed to think I was jerking his chain then he realized I didn’t know what he meant, for real.  He…

Symptoms and Learning

The past week I encountered a variety of web pages sharing different perspectives on symptoms of complex PTSD. The first one is from a known source The Mighty.  This page hosts sections of their page devoted to different challenges.  Their articles are often thought provoking and challenging.  To me, for the most part, fairly accurate. …

Hermits and trust

I threatened my counselor that I would become a hermit.  It was easier in my mind than dealing with all the scary people around me all the time.  Wanting to be a hermit was tied to my not trusting people.  What to do? What to do? 6. “I’m basically a hermit. My home is my…