Learning Self-compassion is a long term goal. I can actually say I made improvements. I am grieving a huge loss, instead of beating myself up for not moving mountains and working as if nothing happened, I am giving myself time each day to feel sad. I cry when I need to. I am not expecting…
I did it for years. I negated every and any compliment I received. If someone said I did something well, I pointed out what I messed up. Every compliment was turned aside or ignored. I wouldn’t….couldn’t see myself as a good person, so compliments must be a lie. Turned my world upside down and inside…
Many besides Pavelka use affirmations as part of their toolbox of things to do to help cope with life. I take a dim view of them since my mother used an affirmation that she taught her students but she didn’t really believe what she said. I get the concept but I saw a negative example. …
I am continuing my take on each one of Pavelka’s Toolbox. Today’s post is about the magic words. Yup, old fashion but still powerful and healing. Please Thank You I’m sorry I don’t know Please and Thank you go along way to smooth many situations. However, I learned that extreme pleading and over the top…
How can I help? When I am totally overwhelmed, it is illogical to serve someone else. However, one of life’s paradoxes is helping others helps me feel less overwhelmed. I tested it repeatedly and it works. It is more fun to do dishes at my kids house than at my own house. My heart feels…
Growing up with a constant flow of criticism and ways to ‘improve’ myself I have an internal tape that is down right cruel. My sister and I talk often about how to disrupt the negative tapes in our heads. The most interesting experiment is when we played Can-you-top-this with our own negative tapes. Instead of…
Amy Beth Gardner Follow · August 14 · My daughter starts middle school tomorrow. We’ve decorated her locker, bought new uniforms, even surprised her with a new backpack. But tonight just before bed, we did another pre-middle school task that is far more important than the others. I gave her a tube of toothpaste and…
Here in the United States many of the school districts are getting ready for students to go back to school. I have a week of teachers meetings. My stuff is gone through and organized. I bought pencils and pens. Along with the regular preparations one of the Facebook blogs posted 49 things you can do…
I read the book How Full is your Bucket? http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=how+full+is+your+bucket Others picked up on the idea of filling your own personal bucket by filling other people’s bucket. Recently on Facebook I came across a link on how to fill children’s buckets. http://www.bucketfillers101.com/bucket-lessons.php The most important thing I learned is I do more damage to my…
I read this on Facebook. I remember watching Mr. Rogers as a teenager since my little brother was watching it. I remember his kindness, so at odds with what I experienced. Tom Joad And then I found this. “I don’t mean to dishonor the other stories here. But there is one I wanted to add.…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 