The Buck Stops With You!

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The only person who is responsible for your life is YOU! That may sound harsh but it can also be enlightening as YOU have control over YOU and nobody else – so if something does not feel right you can change it.

This is the starting point.  This was the key piece that I had to accept to be in counseling.  As long as I blamed someone else, my counselor would threaten to throw me out of counseling.  I cannot change my past, anyone else, and the future isn’t here yet.  The only control I hoped to have is myself.  In the sessions I was blaming someone else my counselor would point out that no one was holding a gun to my head.  I was allowing them to control me.  Ahhhhgggg!  Personal accountability, choice, stop the blame-game, I decide how I am going to behave today.  Interesting thing was my counselor also pointed out that as a child my life depended on unreasonable adults doing their best to harm me.  Unfortunately, I brought that child taught fear into adult life.  Counseling taught me how to set aside childish fears and face my own life.  I am not saying that my childhood fears were not reasonable.  They were.  But I am an adult now and I decide how I respond today.  The interesting side affect is when I change others are forced to change because I am no longer responding to them in the same way.  I am still working on this concept and experimenting on what I have control over.


Hawk flying upside down to catch a treat. How bad do you want it?

Hawk flying upside down to catch a treat. How bad do you want it?




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