flexible without getting bent out of shape. At school our principal challenged us to do something new this year. Gear it up. I decided with the many changes and different request I decided that I would not let all the changes bend me out of shape. One of the challenges for a person living with…
Back in September my sister Judy shared an article on self-care. I decided to write my perspective and share her link but then life happened for both of us. I am not complaining or sad, it just happened. A lot of what happened was good and awesomeness. She got back on track with sharing her…
I made plans. They got changed but I am struggling with letting go of the original plan. Last night in karate we were practicing actual physical contact with the idea of not hurting the other person but showing the move correctly. One of the other people did something I didn’t expect. I stood there frozen…
************* TRIGGER WARNING************* I asked this question in high school. I took a class called search for identity. We read the book Daphne du Maurier The Scapegoat. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18869971-the-scapegoat Left me with more questions than answers. I was the only person in the class that read the semester long text in two weeks. The…
I struggled with reading as a child. I also had a really lousy teacher and almost every student in that class had a major set back. Trauma in the classroom makes it hard to learn. In high school, I changed it all. I worked hard taking difficult classes and graduated in the top 5% of…
Of the same problem….Trust. 14. “I avoid asking help from anyone because I don’t trust anyone. I believe if someone offers me a hand, there will always be something they [want to] ask in return. I have friends but I don’t have a best friend. I keep my distance from people. Automatically, my wall blocks…
In sports a good offense is sometimes the best tactic for winning a game. Having a win/loose attitude with relationships doesn’t work. My counselor taught me either both people win or both people lose. “I’m very defensive which can come across cold or nasty. I also portray quite a lot of negativity which seems to…
I feel like these two go hand-in-hand. Rarely do you see one without the other. Abusers do their fair share of convincing their victims all bad things are the victims fault. A steady diet of blame the victim eventually the victim believes they are the ones that are the problem. 4. “I always feel…
I wrestled with cognitive dissonance but I didn’t know what it was or why it was sooooo uncomfortable. In counseling, I encountered extreme cognitive dissonance when my counselor tried to convince me I was a good person. Most people believe they are a good person. From the time I was small I was told repeatedly…
Awareness of childhood sexual abuse “We only believe those thoughts which have been conceived not in the brain but in the whole body” – W.B. Yeats * The process triggered by working with the brain and the body in conjunction deepen cognitive development significantly in the areas of evaluating, analyzing, applying and remembering *…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 