The other 1%

Yesterday I wrote that “Radical changes fail about 99% of the time for me.” Then there is the other 1%.  Radical changes happen.  One of my radical changes was switching from computer engineering to photography degree in college.  I had enough hours to graduate with a degree and a half because many of my engineering…

Power of Nudge

Radical changes fail about 99% of the time for me.  My counselor taught me the power of nudge.  If you watch motivational speeches you may listen to the difference between good and great is one degree.  The difference between hot water and boiling water is one degree.  Look through several of the videos and recognized…

Pray for your enemy

I am Christian….recently I was introduced to a different concept of praying for your enemy.  I often feel like I am my own worse enemy.  My mean boss expects me to arrive early to work, stay 15 minutes later, and work on projects from school, even when I am home sick.  I call myself names…

Feeling left out

I wanted to write an article with references about PTSD/CPTSD and relationships.  Bless my husband for sticking with me through a rollercoaster of experiences and counseling.  I want to share tips and ideas plus share resources to back up what I am writing.  Frustration is finding articles that don’t talk about before and after trauma. …

Can-Can List

Listened to a speaker share the idea of one lady facing massive health problems.  She created a Can-Can list….I can breathe, I can smile, I can……. You get the drift.  Too often with PTSD, long term health problems, or disabilities we sometimes focus so much on what we can’t do we neglect to open ourselves…

Rules of healing

Every person heals at their own rate and in their own way.  However, I learned from reading many blogs, books, and articles that there are a few basic rules that show up on a regular basis. Rule #1 Stop lying, especially to yourself.  This is difficult to look at your own life without excuses or…

How others feel

Working to understand children helps me to understand me.  Hints and tips on the Understood.org pages are designed to help understand how children with learning disabilities may feel.  Here is something to consider.  Some people with PTSD also have learning disabilities, traumatic brain injury TBI, or other challenges that sometimes leads to having PTSD or…

It’s all in your head

Because your brain is there. Research shows how the brain functions with memories and emotions.  I learned terms like amygdala hijacking, limbic system, and other parts of the brain.  I learned that smell cuts right to the center of the brain so produces the most powerful PTSD response.  Yes, there are times I look up…

the 4Fs

Most people are aware of the two stress responses Fight or Flight.  Back in 1920, Walter Cannon coined the phrase that I grew up with all my life. https://home.cc.umanitoba.ca/~berczii/hans-selye/walter-cannon-fight-or-flight-response.html My mother studied stress so I heard plenty about it.  However, I was in counseling before I learned these basic primal responses have a couple of cousins,…