I was doing really great at the beginning of this year, at least I thought so. Then Covid locked downs hit. My job went from classroom to practically nothing, but fortunately still employed. I still thought I was doing ok. Not impressed with the World reaction to another flu, but I was coping. Then after…
Yes, my abusers went to the same church as I did. I was blamed by people at church. I experienced victim shaming at church. There are unpleasant people at church. So why do I still attend church? My relationship with God, the Father and Jesus Christ are not about them. I felt the promptings of…
We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/pierre_teilhard_de_chardi_160888 I believe there is a 4th aspect that is often ignored, our spiritual welfare. Sadly, abusers do terrible things proclaiming that God is backing them. Religious abuse is…
I was once asked by a counselor what aspects of my life were impacted by PTSD. Simple answer, “All of it.” There is not one part of my life left untouched by PTSD, or some people are calling multiple event trauma Complex PTSD. I struggled with understanding how deeply I am affected. I was raised…
Years ago I listened to Dr. Murray Banks talk about Mental Hygiene. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VyOl0-qbDSU He shared that mental illness is not heredity. The thing you may get is pretty peculiar parents which can precipitate using insanity as a means of survival. Finally most states recognize that addict parents are a challenge for a child. I am…
Sometimes defining what we call abuse is helpful to identify what is what. People do not all respond or define abuse the same way. Sometimes when I read a definition I would feel bewildered because it happened to me all the time and it was just the way I was treated, the behavior was not…
All over people are celebrating the blessings of mothers and motherhood. Sadly, it is not a day of celebration for many. Heart break when you can’t have children. Heart break when a baby doesn’t live. Heart break of a still born child or miscarriage. Heart break of losing a mother to drugs, alcohol or death. …
Self-care is not selfish. Hard to believe this or implement it if as a child you are told that getting enough to eat is being selfish. I was told I had to go hungry so my brother could have seconds. Sad thing, food would spoil in the refrigerator because it wasn’t eaten fast enough. As…
My daughter posted a link to a list of hidden forms of abuse. Those behaviors that fall in the category of deniable. The abuser turns things around and blames the victim. https://tapoos.com/relationships/9-abusive-behaviors-not-physical/?utm_source=virmed&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=VMPub146 Gaslighting – This is an intentional war on the mind and emotions of another person. It is coined from a movie from the…
Almost everyone has challenges with their family…for one there is history….sometimes a long, ugly history. Expectations are often higher for family than for friends. Walking away from family can be complicated or feels impossible. Guilt trips and button pushing can abound. I also seen another side of family filled with acceptance, encouragement, standing by each…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 