Tunnel Vision

I am about to get on my soapbox and rant…..if you are not interested in reading a rant….please, tune in tomorrow when I am feeling a bit more reasonable. I am frustrated and discouraged by some counselors, lay people, acquaintances, webpages, memes, and others not specifically mentioned that try to over simplify Complex PTSD.  It…

Gas Lighting

PTSD Break The Silence Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse wherein your partner manipulates your perception of reality. Here’s 10 signs you’re being gaslighted. 1. You’re told something is normal that you can feel deep in your bones is not. Say your husband (or partner or boyfriend or even friend) does something you find…

Behaviors of Abusers

Why bother sharing information about behaviors of abusers?  Sometimes you are so used to being put down, called names, made a butt of a joke, or gaslighted that you don’t recognize the behavior as abusive.  I work at a high school, about once a year I talk to the classes about boundaries and how to…

Looking back to move forward

Emerging from Broken is one of the blogs that is another survivor learning to live.  Learning that their past needs to be acknowledged and accepted before going forward in the healing process. Emerging From Broken “I had been defined by the ways that others treated me. I believed that I didn’t deserve more then what…

The Law of Attraction

Thorn in my side….. Stated by Pavelka, “…is absolute. What you think about, you bring about. If you focus on the bad, more bad will come, but if you focus on how you want things to be and you believe and picture it as though it is already here, it will turn up.” This to…

He Was WEAK

I follow several other survivors working towards healthier living.  Their posts inspire, encourage, and sometimes trigger me.  I am sharing a link to Roots to Blossom.  I took 4 days to read through her analysis as to why she was abused.  Then another day to read all the comments.  I recommend reading the comments.  Ntexas99…

Chronic pain

Which came first, the chicken or the egg?  Chronic pain is a rarely mentioned side effect or symptom or cause of PTSD.  Many days of my life, I wake up, I move, I’m in pain, I’m not dead, therefore, I have to get up.  Bummer.  I could never figure out what was causing some of…

Positively Negative

On Facebook friends posted an article about how complaining rewires your brain.  http://truththeory.com/2016/07/11/how-complaining-rewires-your-brain-for-negativity-and-how-to-break-the-habit/ “Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any better.” ~Unknown The article makes several good points about complaining being a habit, also explains ways to break gripe talk. So why the title?  One of the biggies on the abuser’s must do…

Diversion Tactics

I came across an interesting article that lists that different ways that toxic people use to manipulate and confuse their victims.  The article is interesting, however the picture at the top may be triggering for some people. http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2016/06/20-diversion-tactics-highly-manipulative-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-to-silence-you/ I am familiar with many of these and on the receiving end of quite a few.  Counseling,…

Walk away

Sometimes you have to walk away.  People will question you, doubt you, suggest ways you could change the situation but the bottom line, sometimes you walk away.  CPTSD/PTSD sometimes occurs due to abuse or ongoing abuse by someone close to us.  Hardest thing to do is to walk away when you wish you could stay. …