Fear – Friend or Foe

I am fascinated that the last item on Pavelka’s toolbox is understanding fear.  My counselor spent many, many sessions on this one subject.  He explained to me that I lived a fear based life.  I made decisions not on what I wanted but what I was afraid would happen if I didn’t take a certain…

Just do it

Just do it is more than a slogan for a company.  Pavelka referred to procrastination stealing time. https://ptsd-acceptingcopingthriving.com/2016/12/05/pavelka-toolbox/  I became a believer after reading the book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.  https://www.amazon.com/Feel-Fear-Do-Anyway/dp/0345487427 The most recent example was DH and I celebrated 40 years of marriage attending TSO Trans Siberian Orchestra concert. http://www.trans-siberian.com/ The stadium…

Losing fear

I pondered on one of the oddities of living a life filled with fear.  My counselor called it living a fear based life.  What stunned him was my reaction when we were discussing death.  As our discussion continued he was puzzled by some of my responses.  He finally stated, “You are not afraid of dying.” …

Admitting defeat

Last month I experienced a person taking advantage to me because of my not understanding how things were done at school.  A month later, I knew I would encounter the same person.  I decided to write an email to try to repair the problem.  It didn’t work.  I went to my supervisor and explained what…

Happen again

“You worry about things that will never happen.”  Sadly, this was a comment used to put me down.  No one believed what happened on 9/11 when planes fell from the sky.  Those that predicted such an extreme event before that day were ridiculed and told they were ridiculous that Americans would never be attacked on…

Embrace my fear

I was told regularly that my fears were ridiculous, unwarranted, and unreasonable.  Then I went into counseling and remembered why I had my fears, they were a reasonable reaction to horrifying events.  I watched over the years a tendency to demonize certain emotions….Fear is at the top of the naughty list.  I read the book…