I keep doing research and reading what others write about the challenges of PTSD. One of the more perplexing terms used by counselors is the explanation that I am ‘Stuck.’ Well great, what does it mean and how do I get unstuck? I imagined myself ‘stuck’ in quicksand, the more I struggled the more ‘stuck’ I become. From talking to several different counselors each one interprets this a little differently.
Roots to Blossom wrote an awesome post explaining ‘stuck’ and what it is not.
Terms that might be helpful to define.
assimilated – making a problem mine when it is not my responsibility
over-accommodated – over the top, trying to take on too much responsibility. http://psychology.about.com/od/glossaryfromatoz/g/Accommodation.htm
Knowing what it is helps to structure a plan to become unstuck.
I learned from my experience that ‘stuck’ is a thought or belief that was formed earlier in my life that becomes an obstacle in my growth now. Sometimes I cling tenaciously to these erroneous thoughts in the mistaken belief they are true and can’t be changed. This is a part of counseling that was very difficult for me as I changed my thinking to change my life. The counselor couldn’t do this for me. I needed someone else to point out my ‘stuck’ thoughts. Helping me see a different way to look at my situation. Then, this is the big part, I had to willingly change my thinking.