Self-care is not selfish. Hard to believe this or implement it if as a child you are told that getting enough to eat is being selfish. I was told I had to go hungry so my brother could have seconds. Sad thing, food would spoil in the refrigerator because it wasn’t eaten fast enough. As…
Interesting how Lilly needs to write again about feeling all feelings including peaceful ones. For me I needed permission to feel angry, sad, and all the ‘negative’ emotions. Without the ‘negative’ emotions, I did not recognize feeling peace when it did come. It got smothered along with all the other emotions. My first counselor recognized…
If I can’t do it perfectly the first time, I won’t do it at all. Sounds ridiculous but how often do we approach things with this attitude. Let me try another version: If you don’t have time to do it right the first time, when will you have time to do it over? ~ John…
21. Being financially responsible for myself so I don’t have to still be dependent on abusers and then hating myself for it. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy writes: https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/12/13/self-care-21-of-25/ Couple of years ago my World crash when I realized I do not have the physical stamina to hold down a full time high responsibility job. I can…
I watched my mother down hand fulls of medications and later supplements in the quest for being healthy. But she wouldn’t go outside for fear of the sun. I saw my grandmother come to live with us with a small suitcase of medications. They put her in the hospital to detox her and found out…
And a nightmare for me, literally. Some nights I stay awake not because I am thrilled with what I am doing but terrified of letting my brain connect with my subconscious. Nasty things in there and I work hard at keeping them separated. 19. Sleeping.. I’ve slept about 6 hours in the last 48. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/…
A complete sentence. My counselor worked with me over and over and over and over, no, I didn’t get it until he had me practice repeatedly. I kept giving huge humongous explanations as to why I was saying no….or more likely I didn’t say no, I attempted the impossible and failed, a lot. Which brings…
Continuing on to #17 on the 25 obvious and non obvious 17. Biggest problem I have is remembering that I need to give myself more attention and love. Rather than continuously giving it all to others. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ This is Judy’s perspective. I really like it but it is not my perspective so you get different…
If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. Seriously, I learned this doing dishes. 16. Not feeling like I’m a bad mom/housekeeper etc while I struggle with chronic pain and health issues. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy shares her views on self-care challenge #16: https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/11/30/self-care-16-of-25/ My health problems started when I was 15 years old. I passed out at…
Self-care. Hard to sort this out when I am trying to take care of myself or am I spending money not to really help myself but to have fun spending money or am I just a muddled mess when it comes to money. 15. Spending money on things for myself, getting haircuts and pedicures, making…
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