A survivor of child abuse knows that their self esteem bucket had holes punched all over it…Some of their buckets were run over by a semi-truck and trailer. Some abuse survivors can still hear the ‘beep, beep, beep’ of that truck backing up. Words like what Pavelka mentions for his toolbox seem like a foreign…
Tough one here. How many times I wished that the memories in my mind would be let go? Please understand, I forgot everything about my life before high school and not much in high school I forgot but my body didn’t let it go. I had body memories, triggers, and extreme reactions with no understanding…
Each year, every person has an opportunity to begin again. What will I bring with me into the new year? What will I have the courage to leave behind? So many people with PTSD want another chance at living a ‘normal’ life. So many are disappointed to find out that ‘normal’ doesn’t exist. My counselor…
Many besides Pavelka use affirmations as part of their toolbox of things to do to help cope with life. I take a dim view of them since my mother used an affirmation that she taught her students but she didn’t really believe what she said. I get the concept but I saw a negative example. …
Train to use the tools in your toolbox. I started with practicing with my counselor. Then I practiced on a person that was truly out to get me fired. If the experiment went badly I didn’t worry because I wasn’t building a relationship, I was learning to protect myself from those that wish to do…
I heard of toxic people and I thought criminals….not so. Hardest thing about counseling was learning that some of the most toxic people I know are in my own family. If I am not very careful, I am a toxic person… very depressing. Pavelka Health Revolution Do you have people in your life who are…
I posted on my other blog several suggestions to prepare to visit family or have them visit you. Check out the link for more links and ideas….. http://weareone-ruth.blogspot.com/2013/12/preparing-to-be-with-family.html This is the post: http://inbadcompanyinc.wordpress.com/2013/12/18/packing-light TR wrote a wonderful post with ideas on things to pack for family visits. Whether overnight or a few hours advance preparation…
My counselor commented that the things I say to myself are some of the worse things I’ve ever heard all compacted onto one short ugly tape, played every time I make a human mistake. He pointed out that I would never say to someone else what I say to myself…. In Pavelka’s toolbox he called…
The next item on Pavelka Toolbox Pavelka Health Revolution is the Magic of 3…..List 3 things I want to accomplish the next day and place it in a prominent place. For me, it is an instant fail because lists are a trigger for me. His idea is a good one. 3 is manageable. Placing it…
I am continuing my take on each one of Pavelka’s Toolbox. Today’s post is about the magic words. Yup, old fashion but still powerful and healing. Please Thank You I’m sorry I don’t know Please and Thank you go along way to smooth many situations. However, I learned that extreme pleading and over the top…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 