Smashing things all together

My counselor lectured me often (read that as at least once or twice a month for 7 years) about lumping/smashing/tangling things all together.  He taught me to pull apart problems and separate them into parts.  For example, I would complain about some event at work.  He would help me sort through what was knee-jerk reaction…

Being less

One of the difficult concepts to overcome is the belief that I am less; less important, less smart, less pretty, less loved.  In a family with favorites, I was informed multiple times that I would be given less food, less attention, less time, less money because others in the family were more important than I…

You don’t know

what you don’t know. This week I was reminded something taught to me by my first counselor.  I was stumbling through several counseling sessions when I first started going, confused and resentful not understanding where he was trying to get me to go with my thinking.  I couldn’t grasp what he was trying to say. …

Counter Act Self-Neglect

Self-nurturing is the way to counter act self-neglect.  One of the harder things I had to do to was to recognize what I needed.  I was trained to self-neglect.  If you aren’t fed when you are hungry the concept that my needs could be met was a bit far fetched.  The first portion of this…

It could always be worse

I’ve heard it over and over and over.  The cancer could have been worse, the nightmares could have been worse, my childhood could have been worse.  That’s true.  Here are a few things I do to myself that make things worse. Self-neglect.  I’m home writing this post because I neglected my health and now I…

Self care

One of the challenges of CPTSD is the long time belief that I am not worth taking care of.  I work at reminding myself that I am worth taking care of myself.  Nurturing, tender, proper care is not self indulgence.  It is taking the time to take care of myself in a healthy way.  Self…

Challenge my views

Counseling was a weekly challenge to my life views.  There wasn’t a single part of my life that wasn’t pushed to the max during counseling.  I continue the process.  Before jumping to the idea that I am suggesting you doubt yourself, I learned to challenge long held beliefs. If you always do what you always…

Tips to help anxiety

Pushing myself to the limits of my endurance, finances, and emotional ends sometimes sets me up to more likely have an anxiety attack. PTSD Breaks the Silence posted some awesome suggestions.  Click on the name below to go to their web page if you have Facebok PTSD Break The Silence PTSD and Panic Attacks –…