I did it for years. I negated every and any compliment I received. If someone said I did something well, I pointed out what I messed up. Every compliment was turned aside or ignored. I wouldn’t….couldn’t see myself as a good person, so compliments must be a lie. Turned my world upside down and inside…
I’ve joined a PTSD Facebook page. This was one of the ideas to help remind yourself for self-protection. Ashley kindly gave me permission to share. Thank you Ashley I put on some dollar store temporary tattoos to help keep me safe tonight. I’ve had the worst weekend due to the holiday and have an extensive…
….is a good thing. Mighty shared a list of 25 things adults that experienced childhood abuse may do. https://themighty.com/2017/06/childhood-emotional-abuse-adult-habits/ When I started counseling I scored 25 out of 25. Ugh. After 10 years of counseling and 4 years working on my own I lowered my score by a lot. If I still do some of…
I am Christian….recently I was introduced to a different concept of praying for your enemy. I often feel like I am my own worse enemy. My mean boss expects me to arrive early to work, stay 15 minutes later, and work on projects from school, even when I am home sick. I call myself names…
I went hunting and found the maladaptive schema post from about 2 years ago. http://weareone-ruth.blogspot.com/2015/05/maladaptive-schemas.html I am curious how I am doing now….. Black is the definition, red is Roots2blossom, Judy and my comments from 2 years ago and green is now. There is a larger explanation on the web page and I recommend looking…
A survivor of child abuse knows that their self esteem bucket had holes punched all over it…Some of their buckets were run over by a semi-truck and trailer. Some abuse survivors can still hear the ‘beep, beep, beep’ of that truck backing up. Words like what Pavelka mentions for his toolbox seem like a foreign…
Tough one here. How many times I wished that the memories in my mind would be let go? Please understand, I forgot everything about my life before high school and not much in high school I forgot but my body didn’t let it go. I had body memories, triggers, and extreme reactions with no understanding…
Many besides Pavelka use affirmations as part of their toolbox of things to do to help cope with life. I take a dim view of them since my mother used an affirmation that she taught her students but she didn’t really believe what she said. I get the concept but I saw a negative example. …
My counselor commented that the things I say to myself are some of the worse things I’ve ever heard all compacted onto one short ugly tape, played every time I make a human mistake. He pointed out that I would never say to someone else what I say to myself…. In Pavelka’s toolbox he called…
The next item on Pavelka Toolbox Pavelka Health Revolution is the Magic of 3…..List 3 things I want to accomplish the next day and place it in a prominent place. For me, it is an instant fail because lists are a trigger for me. His idea is a good one. 3 is manageable. Placing it…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 