Yesterday I wrote that “Radical changes fail about 99% of the time for me.” Then there is the other 1%. Radical changes happen. One of my radical changes was switching from computer engineering to photography degree in college. I had enough hours to graduate with a degree and a half because many of my engineering…
Radical changes fail about 99% of the time for me. My counselor taught me the power of nudge. If you watch motivational speeches you may listen to the difference between good and great is one degree. The difference between hot water and boiling water is one degree. Look through several of the videos and recognized…
How does one learn to care for themselves when they were neglected/abused as a child? What does being cared for look like? I thought for years since I had a roof over my head, food to eat, and clothes to wear I was taken care of. I didn’t know anything different. Raising my own children…
Every person heals at their own rate and in their own way. However, I learned from reading many blogs, books, and articles that there are a few basic rules that show up on a regular basis. Rule #1 Stop lying, especially to yourself. This is difficult to look at your own life without excuses or…
Emerging from Broken is one of the blogs that is another survivor learning to live. Learning that their past needs to be acknowledged and accepted before going forward in the healing process. Emerging From Broken “I had been defined by the ways that others treated me. I believed that I didn’t deserve more then what…
I am fascinated that the last item on Pavelka’s toolbox is understanding fear. My counselor spent many, many sessions on this one subject. He explained to me that I lived a fear based life. I made decisions not on what I wanted but what I was afraid would happen if I didn’t take a certain…
My counselor commented that the things I say to myself are some of the worse things I’ve ever heard all compacted onto one short ugly tape, played every time I make a human mistake. He pointed out that I would never say to someone else what I say to myself…. In Pavelka’s toolbox he called…
One month ends and another begins…it is the last month of the year so it is the beginning of the end. One of the toughest things about PTSD is fearing change. PTSD is doable with routines. Routines for everything. The slightest shuffle or slightest bump in my schedule can send me for a tail spin. …
Some people online are crying, “Does PTSD ever end?” They feel frustrated, hurt, and isolated. I don’t know if it ever ends. I’ve had it since I was 5 years old, I will turn 59 next month. I control it much better after years of counseling. I may have many good days in a row. …
I explored James Ryan’s speech on good questions this week. I hope you had time to read the speech for yourself. Here is his summary: My claim is that if you regularly ask: wait, what, I wonder, couldn’t we at least, how can I help, and what really matters, when it comes time to ask…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 