What it is not

In the media, online and gossip around me have some fairly messed up ideas about PTSD.  PTSD/CPTSD is not rudeness, cruelty to others, or criminal behavior.  Recently, I heard someone say that the reason a person was so rude was because they were mentally ill.  WRONG.  Missing social skills, yes.  Lack of proper upbringing, yes. …

Fix me please

Too often another stumbling block to healing is the mind-set, “Fix me, please.”  Too many clients walk into a counseling room expecting/pleading for the counselor to fix them.  My counselor did not let me keep that delusion for very long.  He informed me under no uncertain terms that I had a lot of work to…

Run Run as fast as you can

I quit sewing costumes for plays years ago because they get so crazy with fittings, alterations, sewing, and planning… sounds like reverse order but that is how crazy plays can get.  I volunteered to help with a Christmas musical at church thinking it would have at the most a dozen parts.  Oops.  A cast of…

What really matters?

I believe in many ways this is the pivotal question that gets distorted in an abuse situation.  What really matters was all about appeasing my abuser to survive one more day.  What really matters was second guessing and jumping through hoops hoping I made it through them fast enough before the boom fell.  Violence and…

kobayashi maru

I had to look it up because I did not remember the reference to the Star Trek movies.  This is a no win test faced by all Cadets in the Starfleet Academy.  (Yes, I watched the original Star Trek before it was a rerun.)  The meme on Facebook showed a bumper sticker, “My ship just…