Calming yourself (part 3)

A post on Facebook led to a link to an article with 49 phrases to use to calm an anxious child.  I am going to explain how these can be used to calm an anxious adult, especially yourself:  (My inner child needed lots of calming, especially when I was in counseling and remembering my past.) …

Walk away

Sometimes you have to walk away.  People will question you, doubt you, suggest ways you could change the situation but the bottom line, sometimes you walk away.  CPTSD/PTSD sometimes occurs due to abuse or ongoing abuse by someone close to us.  Hardest thing to do is to walk away when you wish you could stay. …

All things come to an end

I’m so glad they do.  I never counted so carefully the days until the end of school.  I’m exhausted.  I did something WAY outside of my comfort zone.  I was a part time substitute teacher for Fashion class.  The students were awesome and I am wiped out.  I chose to accept the principal’s request that…

New way to view abuse

This is from Facebook.  I read it and reread it.  Then I put it in a draft on my blog to give me time to reconsider if this is helpful or discouraging.  It certainly made me think, a lot. Awareness of childhood sexual abuse “When we embrace the dirt of our lives, tapping into the…

Who decides hurt?

I enjoy Facebook pages that post stuff that encourages, makes me think, and agrees with me.     The reverse is also true.  If I tell someone they hurt me, they don’t get to decide that they didn’t. One of the important things that I learned in counseling was I decide what hurts me.  As…

Bitter or Better

Lack of choice nips at your hills with PTSD.  I do not have a choice when, where or why I have a flashback.  It happens, I deal with the consequences.  I didn’t have a choice about what happened to me.  I did learn in counseling that I do have a choice about my attitude, my…

Go for it

Hardest thing for people with PTSD is to believe that there is anything left to give.  I felt used up. Worn out. Burned out. Down and out.  The thought there is anything more to give is sometimes hard to believe.  The moment I stood up for myself and decided there was more to life than…

Battle of the mind

In some situations, there are limits I can’t change.  There are problems I can’t fix.  There are choices by other people, I can do nothing about.  If I sleep more, the nightmares will come, not perhaps, not maybe but come without fail.  If I work my self to exhaustion, my body will collapse, it does…

Who’s responsibility is it?

One thing I learned from reading other people’s blogs is the problem of deciding, “Who’s responsibility is it?”  Many people that feel overwhelmed and exhausted often take on the responsibilities of others.  From an early age, I was taught to care for my mother instead of expecting my mother to care for me.  I took…