Yes, my abusers went to the same church as I did. I was blamed by people at church. I experienced victim shaming at church. There are unpleasant people at church. So why do I still attend church? My relationship with God, the Father and Jesus Christ are not about them. I felt the promptings of…
Faith is a tricky thing. First off, not everyone believes it is the same thing. The computer dictionary shares this on faith: complete trust or confidence in someone or something; strong belief in God or in the doctrines of a religion, based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof. From the article: “Complex trauma survivors often endure…
One of the most insidious and long reaching abuses is often completely ignored or denied. That is religious abuse. My definition is taking the concept of Heavenly Father, God, and twist it to mean something so horrible that either a person fears God to the point of being unwilling to study the scriptures or pray,…
This is part of the two great commandments given by Christ. Matthew 22:34-40 [34] But when the Pharisees had heard that he had put the Sadducees to silence, they were gathered together. [35] Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, and saying, [36] Master, which is the great…
The ultimate mind games are the ones abusers use with their victims. Convincing the victim they are powerless, without options, and totally under the power of the abuser. Not hard to do to a small child. Children and adults are groomed to accept abuse. As long as they believe they are powerless, nothing changes. …
One of the abuses that I faced was religious abuse. Twisting scriptures to their own design abusers use God as their motivation to terrorize and brutalize their victims. I didn’t read the Bible for a long time because of how it was used to twist meanings. I am sharing from my other blog this response…
I don’t write about religion on this web page often. Main reason that many survivors are still angry at God. Why me? Why wasn’t I protected? I was a child, wasn’t I important enough to save? I’m told to give service at church, why won’t anyone help me? God’s time is not my time and…
I am continuing a critique of a series of statements dubbed Stupid phrases for people to say to someone in crisis. This is the original article http://communicatingacrossboundariesblog.com/2015/09/28/stupid-phrases-for-people-in-crisis/ Don’t worry. God’s in Charge. True yet not helpful without a clear understanding of where the person is at in their relationship with God. Let’s break this…
This is a series of statement dubbed Stupid phrases for people to say to someone in crisis. This is the original article http://communicatingacrossboundariesblog.com/2015/09/28/stupid-phrases-for-people-in-crisis/ God is good – all the time. I believe the issue with this phrase is a misunderstanding on the part of many people. God is good – all the time is true. …
Every once in a while I come across a very challenging article. I am going to share my perspective on each of these. Stupid Phrases for People in Crisis http://communicatingacrossboundariesblog.com/2015/09/28/stupid-phrases-for-people-in-crisis/ I use some of these phrases…I don’t use others. I’m going to explore them from my perspective. Please, remember this is my understanding from my experience. …
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