Train to use the tools in your toolbox. I started with practicing with my counselor. Then I practiced on a person that was truly out to get me fired. If the experiment went badly I didn’t worry because I wasn’t building a relationship, I was learning to protect myself from those that wish to do…
The next item on Pavelka Toolbox Pavelka Health Revolution is the Magic of 3…..List 3 things I want to accomplish the next day and place it in a prominent place. For me, it is an instant fail because lists are a trigger for me. His idea is a good one. 3 is manageable. Placing it…
I am going to respond to Pavelka Health Revolution Pavelka Toolkit The only person who is responsible for your life is YOU! That may sound harsh but it can also be enlightening as YOU have control over YOU and nobody else – so if something does not feel right you can change it. This is…
I felt a need to write again about No is a full sentence. My counselor spent weeks trying to help me wrap my mind around this concept. I’ve written about this before…last year about this time. https://ptsd-acceptingcopingthriving.com/2015/12/02/ho-ho-no/ I was trained with the concept that it is impolite to say no. If I did say no…
One month ends and another begins…it is the last month of the year so it is the beginning of the end. One of the toughest things about PTSD is fearing change. PTSD is doable with routines. Routines for everything. The slightest shuffle or slightest bump in my schedule can send me for a tail spin. …
I explored James Ryan’s speech on good questions this week. I hope you had time to read the speech for yourself. Here is his summary: My claim is that if you regularly ask: wait, what, I wonder, couldn’t we at least, how can I help, and what really matters, when it comes time to ask…
I believe in many ways this is the pivotal question that gets distorted in an abuse situation. What really matters was all about appeasing my abuser to survive one more day. What really matters was second guessing and jumping through hoops hoping I made it through them fast enough before the boom fell. Violence and…
I had to look it up because I did not remember the reference to the Star Trek movies. This is a no win test faced by all Cadets in the Starfleet Academy. (Yes, I watched the original Star Trek before it was a rerun.) The meme on Facebook showed a bumper sticker, “My ship just…
A post on Facebook led to a link to an article with 49 phrases to use to calm an anxious child. I am going to explain how these can be used to calm an anxious adult, especially yourself: (My inner child needed lots of calming, especially when I was in counseling and remembering my past.) …
A post on Facebook led to a link to an article with 49 phrases to use to calm an anxious child. I am going to explain how these can be used to calm an anxious adult, especially yourself: (My inner child needed lots of calming, especially when I was in counseling and remembering my past.) …
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